"I yearn for what Humanity can give and what they cannot"

michelleDear Women’s Fellowship,

 The world can give me cute cupcake designs and decoration  tips, tea parties, policy writing skills, casserole recipes and other ways to pass the time in the first world

Reality is, Jesus is coming, so let’s all look busy. Like Martha did in ancient times. Truthfully, with respect and love, I just want to be honest? If I wanted to learn how to decorate cupcakes, I would take a class on that. If I wanted to be educated on strategies for leadership, administration, policy creation, I would just, register in higher learning institution for a leadership course.

But I’m here with you because I want what the world cannot give me, living water.  

We’re choking on cutesy things and crafty bits, safe lady topics of course and if one more person says that "modest is hottest" with a straight face, I will “faint”.

We are hungry for authenticity and vulnerability, not churchified life. Some of us are drowning, suffocating, dying of thirst for cold water of real community. We’re trying really hard, we keep showing up to women's events and we leave feeling just a bit empty. It’s just more of the same every time.

 The women of our world aren’t looking for a safe place to complain about policies and the oohs and ahhs over centrepieces. We’re not at all mothers, some of us work outside the home, some of us have kids and others don’t or won’t or can’t. Is womanhood only about wifehood and motherhood? What about those amongst us who are not wives and mothers?

We’re not all in the same season of life. We are / or should be diverse image bearers of a divine God.

 We need Jesus. We seek deep spirituality. We seek fellow travellers. We are hungry for true community, a place to tell our stories and listen to one another, to love and to be loved in return but above all, direct me to Jesus, not to the sale at New Castle Mall.

 You know what I would have liked tonight instead of a meeting or rules of debate? I would have liked to pray and be prayed for. I would have liked for the women of the church to share their stories or wisdom with one another. No more policy discussions; please!!! Just hand the microphone to that lady over there that brought the apples.

 I would love to wrestle with some questions that don’t have a one paragraph answer in your study guide. I would like to do a Bible study that does not have pink or flowers on the cover. I would have liked to sign up to bring a meal for our elderly or drop off some clothes for a new baby or be informed about issues in our church and city where we can make space for God. I would like to organize and prioritise, to rabble-rouse and disturb the peace of the rest of the world on behalf of justice, truth, beauty and love. I’d love to hear the prophetic voice of women in our church.

 Please, may we be the place to detox from the world, from its values, its entertainment, its priorities, its focus on appearances and materialism and consumerism?

So here is my suggestion: Please stop treating women's fellowship like a Safe Club for the Little Ladies to Play Church.

 We are smart. We are brave. We want to change the world.

We run marathons for our sisters, not so that we can lose weight. We have more to offer to the church than our policy writing skills. I look around and I can see that these women can offer strategic leadership, wisdom, counsel and even, yes, teaching. 

 We want to give and serve and make a difference. We want to be challenged. We want to read books and talk politics, theology and current events.

We want to wrestle through our theology. We want to listen to each other. We want to worship. We want to intercede for our sisters and weep with those who weep, rejoice with those who rejoice, to create life and art and justice with intention.

Let’s be a community of women, gathered together to live more wholehearted, to sharpen, challenge, love and inspire one another to then scatter back out to our worlds bearing the mandate that our President Ms. Xapile  always say: We are women who love.

Let us rise to the questions of our time. Let us speak to the injustices in our church, communities and the world. Let us move the mountains of fear and intimidation. Let us shout down the walls that separate and divide us. Let us fill the earth with the fragrance of love. Let us be women who love.

I’ll bring the cupcakes next time (although they likely won’t look cute).

It is time to implement, bring woman to Christ and build our church to even greater heights. 

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